To me, this is normal, but as I talk to other Mamas, I am the freak here.
When we lived in Nashville, we had no family near us. Instead, we had friends that became our family. Because they were important to us, they were deemed good enough to take care of Stella when we weren’t there. Not all of them had experience taking care of babies, but they wanted to learn. I simply showed them how and where everything was, and it worked. And guess what? She had a blast with them! The only criteria I held was that they love her and show her some fun.
By trusting others in this way, Ryan and I were able to relieve a lot of stress and were able to have a social life! This is not to be underestimated! Date nights, alone time and the occasional martini is important to our well-being- and yours.
Of course I’m not saying to leave your child with anyone, always use your best judgement.
But I know some Mamas that cannot let go of taking care of their babies themselves. By being the only person you trust to take care of the kids may lead to unnecessary stress and borders unhealthy. It may just produce a picky, clingy toddler or child, and one tense Mama. Maybe not, but how about letting go and having some fun?
So, pump your boobs and leave the rest! It could be just what the doctor ordered! Besides, relaxing without your kiddo will only produce a chic, traveling Mama, and that’s not so bad!