This is What Happened and I Couldn’t Stop It- Will My Daughter Know Better?

Maybe it was that I was outnumbered. Perhaps it was because I didn’t know anyone but the one girl. But it was definitely one of the worst nights of my childhood and I didn’t know how to stop it. I mean, I was paralyzed. I don’t know what was scarier: that this happened or that I froze up and didn’t have the courage to speak up.

In hindsight, I wish I wouldn’t have gone to the slumber party my (very new) friend, Carmen invited me to. She had just transferred from another school and because of that I was the only one invited from her current one. So I was the new kid at the party. That practically put a target on my back.

Not only was I ganged up on, but I was ridiculed, made fun of and humiliated. All. Night. Long. The worst part? I didn’t even think to call my Mom and have her come pick me up, I just sat there and took it.

What a horrible memory, and one that I hope my daughter won’t ever come close to feeling. Wish I could say that was the last time I was bullied, but it wasn’t. Wish I could say that I never bullied anyone but I can’t.

That’s why I love one of the only clothing company that’s doing something about it, Hip Little Tribe.

They’re founded by partners, Tiffany and Heather and a percentage of sales from their anti-bullying tees goes directly to Listen to Our Voices (LTOV is an organization championing the fight against bullying). And with slogans like, “I’m no bully I just tease my hair,” how could you not love it?


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“I’m No Bully I Just Tease My Hair” tee- adorable, right!?


Book Bully Heather

After speaking with Tiffany she told me that this charity that speaks close to her heart. “I was definitely bullied in school. I didn’t have a lot of confidence. Then when I was in high school, I got into an abusive relationship. My self-esteem was so low.” Tiffany hopes to show her three daughters that they can be strong and have a voice.

You Belong copy

This is how HLT was born. And business is going well. After starting last year, they have almost 10K followers on Instagram and their Fall line has just launched.

“It’s going to be super creative with a lot of hand-drawn fonts, caligraphy and watercolors.”

HLT is also starting a blog to offer plenty of inspiration. Their section titled, Letters With Meaning will be a place where real victims of bullying can share their stories and let their voices be heard. And Tiffany is beginning it by writing her very own experiences.

“I don’t want my daughters to make the same mistakes I did. I want to teach them differently.”

Amen, sista! Now that’s a  brand I can get into and support.


New designs HLT

A design from their new Fall collection


Let’s start this new school year being aware, listening to our kids and standing against bullying!

Now that I’ve shared my story with bullies, what’s yours? Don’t give it power by holding it in, have the courage to speak out and let your voice be heard! Share below in the comments.

About Rana Mancini Cavanaugh

Rana is a Chic Mama dedicated to helping other Mama's live a fuller, happier, healthier life through this blog. She is proud to announce she just finished an eBook on how to travel with kids and is finishing up her first novel. She is a happy wife to her sweetheart since the fourth grade and Mama to a lovely little girl. Happy Travels! xo

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